The Internet Dating Crash Course – Lesson 1 – Online Dating in Today’s World

I’m so glad you’ve given yourself this gift!

In the next five days, you’re going to be hearing from me with some solid strategies on how to use online dating sites to finally achieve your dream of finding someone who meets all of your emotional and physical needs.

You may have even tried a dating site before but your results flopped. That’s typical for people who don’t understand how it works – and like anything else that’s new to you – you have to educate yourself to get the best results!

Most people simply fill in their name, maybe stick a picture on the site, and list “walks along the beach” as their favorite activity.

That won’t get you anywhere!

In this lesson, we’re going to cover the Internet dating scene and in the end I’ll give you a couple of little tasks you can tackle now or at the end of this course. (I recommend doing it now so that you can follow along as we go).

Ready to start?

What Is Online Dating?

Online dating isn’t simply having a long distance relationship on the ‘net. Many people do meet that way – maybe in a music or TV fan chat room (not necessarily a dating site) – but it’s also meant as a bridge to connect local individuals to one another if a match within the system is found.

The online dating scene can be a little intimidating.

There are so many people there – some seem to be absolute pros at maneuvering the dating sites and some look like they put up a shell of a profile page and ran away scared.

Some online dating sites connect groups of individuals to communicate with one another for friendships. It’s more than just a one on one romantic connection – many solid friendships are made on Internet dating sites today!

You might find a friend to have an occasional lunch with, or someone worthy of proposal – and everything in between.

The online dating services doesn’t hand pick (by a human reviewer) the perfect person for you. It’s not a match-making service in that regard.

What it is, is a place where you can make connections via the computer. And sometimes that evolves into a phone or in-person meeting if everything goes smoothly initially.

Most online dating sites have some semblance of free service available, but you really can’t participate to any real degree unless you give it a test drive and become an official member.

What information are they going to want to know? Well here’s a sample list – but keep in mind that you often retain control over what you share and what details you choose to give out.

• Name
• Gender
• Age
• Location
• Hobbies
• Salary
• Body type
• Race

Many people leave out certain profile items that they don’t want to disclose – like salary, for example. Or maybe body shape – those are all optional for you to fill in on most sites.

The reason these criteria are listed is so that the computer system can easily match up people who fit your needs and the needs of others.

For example, perhaps your age bracket is strictly listed as hoping to meet someone who is 18-25. If you’ve chosen this, then it wouldn’t present you with anyone over age 25.

Each site allows you to include a profile picture.

Some people stress unnecessarily about this. Online dating has become a spot for people to weed out the individuals whose entire personalities don’t match theirs – and believe it or not, looks are often not the #1 priority!

An online dating site doesn’t just have profiles with an email contact system, either. It includes features members can use like chat rooms, web cam hang outs, and even message boards where you can post questions and help others who are just learning to navigate the process of online dating.

The free services most sites allow are just enough of a tease to entice you to sign up. For example, you can post a profile. But when someone contacts you on the site, you have to sign up as a member to able to read or reply to the message.

Decide ahead of time what type of online dating site you’re seeking. Do you want one that encompasses all levels of connections – from friendships to lifetime partners? Or are you looking for a fast hookup with someone and don’t care if it develops into something more?

The Steps You’ll Take to Use an Official Online Dating Site

I know how awful it is to spend every night sitting there alone, wishing you had someone to talk to. Once you get past the party scene, it isn’t fun to have to go to a bar and hang out in order to meet someone single, either!

Workplaces are good for meeting people – but not always – and you really can’t rely on friends and family to set you up with blind dates time and time again. So that leaves online dating sites as the most reliable method for helping you make the most important connection of your life.

Not All Dating Sites Are Created Equally

Never, ever just join a dating site that you see in some random ad. You want honest recommendations. Sites are creates differently – and some have more stable reputations than others. You want real reviews by members who have had a great experience using the site.

What Does Online Dating Cost?

Initially, you can sign up as a free user of the Internet dating site. It won’t open you up to all of the features, but it’ll get you closer to your goals.

My advice is that you sign up as a free member at several sites and then decide which one seems like the kind of dating site you’d most prefer to use. As a free user, you might be able to browse profiles, but not initiate contact, or it might be more restrictive to seeing profile pictures only.

How Is a Connection Made to Someone?

The dating sites offer a two-way street. You can contact others, or wait to be contacted by someone else! The system will do its part by running your interests and preferences through the system, sending you matches it finds in the process.

Once you get the list, you can go through and whittle down the list to those you feel have potential. Then you might send out an introductory email to see if there’s a mutual interest.

What’s the Best Way to Make a Profile?

Our next lesson is going to really teach you how to make an amazing profile, but for now, you can sign up for a free profile on a few sites and add your picture and basic information.

It’s not advisable to be extremely detailed with your profile information until you’re sure this is someone who you want to know. Feel free to list hobbies and interests, because this is where initial connections are made.

Tasks for You to Accomplish Until Tomorrow’s Lesson:

I want you to take out a piece of paper (or do this on your computer). Write down the following and answer the questions:

1. By joining an online dating site, I hope to _____________________________

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2. For communication with others, I want to use the following (check all that apply): ___ Email ___ Site/Online Chat ___ Phone ___ Web Cam Hang Out ___ In person meeting

3. I want to find (check all that applies): ___ friendship ___ companionship ___ long term relationship

Those three questions will help you determine a path for your online dating journey so that you stick to meeting your goals and don’t get sidetracked with something you really don’t want for yourself.

Online Dating Tips – 3 Facts About Women Dating Online

If you really hope to date the woman of your dreams or at least get some women to respond to your dating profile, then I have some online dating tips for you in this article.

The truth is, if you have the right online dating tips about how most women approach dating on the internet, you increase your odds of attracting women.

So here are 3 facts about how most women approach internet dating. Keep these online dating tips close to you and you should have no problem attracting women to your profile.

Women Don’t Wish to Look Too Blunt Online

Before you go thinking that women like to reveal as little as possible about themselves online because they are too proud, it’s not true. They just don’t want to appear too blunt online. And that’s the first of the 3 online dating tips for you.

Women like to be approached, teased and flirted with before they decide to go on a date with someone. So while men will write what they want in their dream girls and what they can offer, women aren’t like that.

So how does this help you? It’s to let you know that you shouldn’t despair if women don’t respond to your dating profile. Instead, learn how to put up an attractive profile to lure them.

Another fact about women is this. Some won’t join a dating site until they browse through some profiles of men on that site. And when they do see a man they can potentially hook up with, only then will they be willing to join that site to make contact.

That gives you another reason to learn how to put up an attractive profile, doesn’t it?

Women Approach Men Who Stand Out

This second of the 3 online dating tips that I will reveal tells you that if you want women to respond to you, you must stand out from the other men.

So learn to write something different on your profile that will catch women’s attention.

Statements with the word “because” tend to stand out, so use it. Don’t just say you like something. Explain the reason behind it.

For example, you can say “I love magic tricks because they are always full of surprises and they spice up a boring day”. A woman reading it will know you love surprises that brighten up your day.

Not only does that give a woman the insight of how you are like, but also if you’re potentially someone whom she’ll want to date.

Women Approach Men Who Are Specific

Don’t leave women guessing, period! That’s the final of the 3 online dating tips you need to know. So besides writing about what you have to offer in your dating profile, don’t forget to include what you want in a woman you wish to date.

Women don’t like to waste their dates on men who will never spend more than 1 short date with them, so you need to help them weed out the men they don’t want to approach.

That creates a win-win situation because you won’t waste the time of the women who don’t suit you, and you don’t waste your time dating women who aren’t right for you.

With the right online dating tips, you can understand how women date online and how to take advantage of it to increase your odds of finding the right woman.

I Finally Signed Up for Online Dating – Now What?

After signing up with an online dating service your next step is to do what you’d normally do.

Well, you finally did it. You went online and created your profile on the free online dating site. Now what? Do you just wait for people to see your fabulous photo and start inviting you to connect? Do you check out hot profile pics and start sending out invitations to connect?

Online dating is fun and easy. It’s a great way to make new friends, connect with old ones as well as find your soul mate. Yet dating online is not a magical device that does everything for you. You have to participate and be involved consistently but at your convenience, of course. Just like when you’re actually dating. Online dating is dating via technology. Real people are really communicating and learning about you and sharing stuff about them. They’re there to connect and to get involved. You have to do the same. So your next step is just to be natural, be real and to do what you’d normally do when you’re dating in real life because online dating is actually dating.

An Internet dating site is another tool that can enhances your connections, friendships and relationships. It’s an amazing tool, that is! Technology and free Internet matching sites and online dating websites allow you to be a part of the kind of community that you want to belong to and to connect with those who have what you’re looking for – same interests, similar dislikes, favorite groups, fave music and similar careers, etc. Dating is much more fun and easier as technology allows for communicating when it’s convenient for you and messages get sent directly via e-mails, postings, message boards, forum, instant messaging, chats, video chats and more. What better way than all of these tactics to communicate and share? And of course, you can add phone calls and text messaging to communicate to those who you’ve connected online. This really enhances your online dating experience.

Now that you understand this, your next step is to make sure that you have a complete profile and post plenty of pics. (See our other blogs about tips on photos that you upload on your dating account.) Make sure you add enough content to tell others about you and what you do, what you’re looking for, etc. Think of it this way, ask yourself what you are looking for when browsing through other people’s profiles? Then do the same with yours. Not enough information on a profile most likely leads you to clicking past that profile and moving on to the next so if you don’t have enough info on yours, people will gloss over you just as well.

When online dating and adding info to your profile and wall, keep it real. You must be honest. Don’t mislead others on your attributes. Remember, if things work out you will be meeting and getting to know these people face to face in the near future. And they will be learning about you. If you stretch the truths they will see them and well, it doesn’t look flattering. Also you would want them to do the same for you. So be honest and keep it real. Keep your online presence as real as who you are in reality.

Just like meeting in person and going on a date in reality, remember that online dating is very similar to dating. You’ve got someone on the other end who you’re talking to and connecting with. Communicate effectively and once again, be honest and be you. Keep it real.

Pace yourself in the way that is comfortable for both parties just like dating face-to-face because if all things go well, you’ll be meeting them in person soon. The great thing about dating online is that you get to learn about the other person (or people) internally instead of externally first. You get to learn about how they think and all the great things that they love, hate, know, do and not just focusing on their external looks (although that’s very important too, if that’s a top priority to you.)

Now if you want to connect with people who you think are really hot and just want to hook up, you can let them know that also. Online dating is great as you can date how you wish. Just let the others know what you’re there for and what you want. That’s the great thing about it. A dating website allows you and others to find exactly what you’re looking for.

So what to do after signing up for a free online dating account? Just do what you’d normally do. Be you and keep it real.