I Finally Signed Up for Online Dating – Now What?

After signing up with an online dating service your next step is to do what you’d normally do.

Well, you finally did it. You went online and created your profile on the free online dating site. Now what? Do you just wait for people to see your fabulous photo and start inviting you to connect? Do you check out hot profile pics and start sending out invitations to connect?

Online dating is fun and easy. It’s a great way to make new friends, connect with old ones as well as find your soul mate. Yet dating online is not a magical device that does everything for you. You have to participate and be involved consistently but at your convenience, of course. Just like when you’re actually dating. Online dating is dating via technology. Real people are really communicating and learning about you and sharing stuff about them. They’re there to connect and to get involved. You have to do the same. So your next step is just to be natural, be real and to do what you’d normally do when you’re dating in real life because online dating is actually dating.

An Internet dating site is another tool that can enhances your connections, friendships and relationships. It’s an amazing tool, that is! Technology and free Internet matching sites and online dating websites allow you to be a part of the kind of community that you want to belong to and to connect with those who have what you’re looking for – same interests, similar dislikes, favorite groups, fave music and similar careers, etc. Dating is much more fun and easier as technology allows for communicating when it’s convenient for you and messages get sent directly via e-mails, postings, message boards, forum, instant messaging, chats, video chats and more. What better way than all of these tactics to communicate and share? And of course, you can add phone calls and text messaging to communicate to those who you’ve connected online. This really enhances your online dating experience.

Now that you understand this, your next step is to make sure that you have a complete profile and post plenty of pics. (See our other blogs about tips on photos that you upload on your dating account.) Make sure you add enough content to tell others about you and what you do, what you’re looking for, etc. Think of it this way, ask yourself what you are looking for when browsing through other people’s profiles? Then do the same with yours. Not enough information on a profile most likely leads you to clicking past that profile and moving on to the next so if you don’t have enough info on yours, people will gloss over you just as well.

When online dating and adding info to your profile and wall, keep it real. You must be honest. Don’t mislead others on your attributes. Remember, if things work out you will be meeting and getting to know these people face to face in the near future. And they will be learning about you. If you stretch the truths they will see them and well, it doesn’t look flattering. Also you would want them to do the same for you. So be honest and keep it real. Keep your online presence as real as who you are in reality.

Just like meeting in person and going on a date in reality, remember that online dating is very similar to dating. You’ve got someone on the other end who you’re talking to and connecting with. Communicate effectively and once again, be honest and be you. Keep it real.

Pace yourself in the way that is comfortable for both parties just like dating face-to-face because if all things go well, you’ll be meeting them in person soon. The great thing about dating online is that you get to learn about the other person (or people) internally instead of externally first. You get to learn about how they think and all the great things that they love, hate, know, do and not just focusing on their external looks (although that’s very important too, if that’s a top priority to you.)

Now if you want to connect with people who you think are really hot and just want to hook up, you can let them know that also. Online dating is great as you can date how you wish. Just let the others know what you’re there for and what you want. That’s the great thing about it. A dating website allows you and others to find exactly what you’re looking for.

So what to do after signing up for a free online dating account? Just do what you’d normally do. Be you and keep it real.

Online Dating Should Be an Olympic Sport

The Olympic Games program consists of 26 sports, 30 disciplines and nearly 300 events. It is a global event with monumental interest and cultural significance in our world. As such, I would like to formally submit Online Dating/Dating to the International Olympic Committee for consideration of inclusion as an Olympic sport for the 2012 or 2016 games.

Think this is just another boneheaded idea from your friends in the online dating world? Consider this:

Olympic sports are governed by International Sports Federations (IFs) who are in turn recognised by the International Olympic Committee (IOC) as the global supervisors of their respective sports. In layman terms, that means the big dog IOC lets the little dog IFs manage everything on a local level. Well, such a little dog already exists in the online dating world in the form of reputable online dating websites. That is right, there are some reputable dating websites that are good enough to be called established “Federations.” These websites can be the global governing body of online dating! That was the first step. Now to convince the IOC that online dating is a sport.

In terms of Olympic competition, think about it we could classify the online dating world into men, and women, then break it down further into specific weight classes, or even personality types within those weight classes. These men and women would then compete with one another physically (through flirting), intellectually (through questioning) and visually (physical appearance). It is the perfect blend of a sport. The winning Gold medalist will have to spend years in the gym training to be physically sound, spend years in school or the library “learning” to become smart, and behind all the muscles and misogynistic intellect, still be graceful in delivery and presence. The winner of the online dating would be perfect athlete, the Opus Olympian.

Not convinced it would work? Maybe your mind will change after reading this:

In October 2004, the IOC established an Olympic Programme Commission who’s job was to review all existing sports, and other non-recognised Olympic sports. In this review the goal was to apply a systematic and category approach to each sport and evaluate whether or not it met the criteria for inclusion in the Olympic games as a recognised Olympic sport. This Commission came up with seven criteria to judge whether a sport should be included or not.

1) History and tradition of the Sport
2) Universality
3) Popularity of the sport
4) Image
5) Athletes’ health
6) Development of the International Federation that governs the sport
7) Costs associated of hosting/playing the sport

The above seven criteria my friends is what a sport or discipline has to meet in order to be considered for inclusion at the Olympic Games. Period.

Does Online dating meet these 7 criteria? Lets find out:

1) History and Tradition – Check! Dating is the oldest tradition on the planet that was around before any of today’s current Olympic sports.

2) Universality – Check! I’m pretty sure dating and the sport of interpersonal communication and sparing has universal appeal. I mean, we do it every day!

3) Popularity of the sport – Check! I’d say Dating was pretty popular. Wouldn’t you? Everybody does it. Even animals. I don’t see penguins playing Soccer or Baseball, but I do see them date.

4) Image – Check! Dating is all about attraction and reflecting a positive and beautiful self image. Those who partake in the sport of dating exude the highest standard of image compared to any sport image or sport athlete! Who likes to date an unbathed, rude, and dirty human being? Puhleeze.

5) Athletes Health – Check! Dating athletes date, and date often. As such, they take their own personal health very seriously. Education about Sexually Transmitted Disease start at a young age, and practicing safe sex to maintain good sexual health is part of the every day routine for those who date.

6) Development for International Federation that governs the sport: Check! The International Federation for Online Dating, a reputable dating website, would very much benefit from online dating being included in the Olympic games.

7) Low cost of holding the sport: Check! How much does it cost to look at the person next to you and start a conversation?

In conclusion, Online Dating meets all the criteria for inclusion as an Olympic sport, in many ways better than existing Olympic sports. Consider Curling – Who is that helping? How about Fencing? Serious people… how on earth is swatting somebody with a piece of wire going to benefit people or project a good self image? Give me a break.

So without further adieu, I would like to formally submit online dating to the International Olympic Committee for consideration and recognition as a recognised Olympic Sport in the year 2012 or 2016…or even 2020. I’m not picky.

Thank you very much.

Should I Try Online Dating? 10 Great Reasons to Give It a Go

Should I try online dating? Where can I find great online dating advice??

If you have been thinking of trying online dating, but you can’t quite get up the nerve to do so; perhaps you should just jump straight in and try it.

There are lots of people – busy people, shy people, people in rural areas – who have good reasons why they don’t find it easy to meet new people; and if you too want to grow your acquaintance, online dating may be the answer.

It’s a way of expanding your social circle without having to brave the bar and club scene. And if you’ve been asking yourself ‘Should I try online dating?’ but you’ve always found excuses up to now that prevented you from trying it out; well, maybe your reasons are not as valid as you think.

It’s not safe

Think about that rationally. Why should it be any less safe than a blind date or meeting someone randomly in a bar? You can spend plenty of time chatting online before you decide to meet them, so you will have learnt lots about them before you ever do meet. You can also keep your personal information private until you feel comfortable revealing it and agreeing to set up a date.

I already meet lots of people

Even if that’s true, online dating can only add to it. It doesn’t mean you have to stop looking for love among the people you meet in your daily life; and even if you do have your eye on a few possible dates, there’s no guarantee that any of them will turn out to be Mr Right. Think of online dating as just another way to increase your chances of finding The One.

I’m too busy to date right now

You may be too busy to trawl bars or go to nightclubs, but everyone can find time to use the internet – and to meet someone they think is worth their time. If your life is really full, then online dating is a very efficient use of your precious time which could produce a very positive result. Commuting time, your lunch break and a few quiet minutes in the evening are all opportunities for browsing online profiles, and you can exchange messages from your smartphone at any time.

I’m not ready to start dating

Then try signing up to some social groups first, and get a feel for what it’s like to meet people online. Remember that you can have as much or as little to do with these people as you want, so you can take things at a pace you feel comfortable with. There are plenty of social sites and forums which are aimed at friendship and shared interests rather than dating. You can make some new friends, have some fun and be ready to jump into online dating with confidence when you feel ready.

It’s too expensive

Many sites allow you to sign up and browse for free, although usually you have to pay to create your own profile or respond to profiles you like. But most charges are quite reasonable, although some very specialist or exclusive sites may charge a premium. Normally you would find yourself spending less than you would on a night out. And you may find it’s money far better spent too!

I’d find it difficult to trust someone I met online

Well, are you so sure that could always trust someone you met offline either? However you meet people, there is always the possibility that they will turn out to be duplicitous, irresponsible or flaky. In either case, you should trust what your instinct tells you, and if someone gives you a bad feeling or vibe, avoid them in future.

It’s just for nutters and weirdos

Any reputable dating site is jealous of its reputation, and they have safeguards to weed out people who cause upset or offence to their online community. And in their own interests, most people online are vigilant about reporting inappropriate or suspicious behaviour. You shouldn’t feel any less safe than you would in the street.

Only the desperate resort to online dating

Once possibly, but not these days. All sorts of people all over the world are using online dating today, and many of them are just like you. They see it as a safe way to introduce themselves to people they would never otherwise meet, and who might become great friends or even the Love of Their Life. You can find people with similar interests who enjoy the same things you do, and you get to choose the people you want to meet. What’s not to like?

I’m too different/unusual/eccentric to find someone who shares my interests

If you really are a genuine one-off, then the internet is THE place to find someone who shares your originality. Not only can you include your unusual interests in your profile, but there are also dating sites online for all sorts of different cultural, spiritual, intellectual and physical interest groups. And if your niche isn’t yet covered – well, start your own!

I’m too old for online dating

Not today! People of all ages find themselves single these days, and you’re never too old to start again. Even people in their nineties have been motivated to surf the internet and find love online, and if they’re not too old, then neither are you. Life’s too short to pass up one of the best opportunities there is to find a new love.

All these excuses have been around for years, but we’re in the 21st century now and online dating is mainstream. Should I try online dating? If you really do want to increase your chances of finding Mr Right, then the answer must be Yes. Whatever you reasons for not having met the right man up to now, nobody is too busy to date. So give it a go and see for yourself the opportunities it can provide that will add to your chances of finding Mr Right.